If you are saying the dealer told you the color is Tuxedo Black then they were wrong. Unless they did a custom paint job the Explorer ST hasn't been offered in that color. I don't think Ford even using it anymore. I had a 2013 Focus ST in Tuxedo Black, the metallic was VERY easy to see. Look at the paint by the camera flash in this photo.
What 'afterthoughts' aren't you loving? Overall, congrats!